Most importantly, Perel points out the telltale signs of when a relationship’s desire transitions into love, the point where eros is lost. Real-life patient cases are presented to help understand the correlation between cultural changes and the erotic dynamic. How is it that people can now have as much sex as they want but seem to have lost the passion for it? Explained are a variety of factors that have led to the diminishment, beginning with the sexual revolution. Many stereotypes are dispelled as we are enlightened about the complex realities. It discusses cultivating eroticism, losing it, and what is necessary to maintain it at a high level. Instead, this book focuses on understanding how eroticism exists between a couple.

This is not a book on how often, how many times, who gets there first, how long it lasts, or any other specifics on how to be erotic. Reinforced by her 20+ years of practice, Ester Perel takes a close look at the demise of committed couples’ eros (sexual desire).Įrotic intelligence is the understanding of what creates desire and attracts a couple to each other, what changes as the relationship matures, how starting a family influences change, and how and why desire dissipates between a couple as they spend more time together. After reading Mating in Captivity, I can say that “erotic intelligence” is a term we all need to get better acquainted with. In dating and relationships, we regularly deal with social and emotional intelligence.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence By Esther Perel Synopsis:

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